The loss of a child is a journey unlike any other. It is a journey of grief, loss, and deep pain. It is a journey that is full of twists and turns, and there is no map to follow, no compass. There is guidance, and ways of learn coping skills, but there is no healing from this. Nor do we wish there to be.
However, this Peregrine journey is also one of hope... of finding new meaning in life, and discovering ways to go on in the face of such a grievous loss.
Why We Use the Term "Peregrine"
At The Lost Travelers Club, we believe that the term "Peregrine" is a fitting way to describe a grieving parent. Peregrines are falcons that are known for their speed, agility, and resilience. They are also known for their long-distance migrations. The root of the word comes from Latin, originally meaning 'stranger in a field (Lost Traveler)' and/or 'one who is on a sacred pilgrimage.'
Likewise, we call a grieving sibling an 'Eyas' (pron. Eye-Us), which comes from the Middle English term "nyas," which was derived from the Old French word "nias," meaning "nestling" or "fledgling." The Old French term, in turn, can be traced back to the Late Latin word "nidaxius," which is derived from "nidus," meaning "nest." It is used specifically to describe young peregrine falcons, or nestlings, that have hatched and are still in the nest.
Peregrines are also known for their strong parental bonds. This is a reminder that the bond between a parent and child is never truly broken, even after passing. As Peregrines, we find the strength to keep going, even when it is hardest. We must find the courage within to face and endure our grief, actively discovering ways of living with our loss.
Peregrines can find new meaning in our lives... together. We find ways to channel our grief into helping others, and to make a difference in the world, in honor of our beloved children.
The Peregrine's journey is lifelong and difficult, and full of the imagination of possibility.
We at The Lost Travelers Club are here to support you on your journey. We recognize that everyone's experience is unique, but want to emphasize that no one has to navigate this journey alone. We understand because we are Peregrines too. We find that there is strength in numbers.
We hope that the term "Peregrine" will help to bring comfort and strength to grieving parents. Let's fly together!